Our words only communicate our thoughts. The most influential messages we send are found in the way we live our lives. “We never know which lives we influence, or when, or why.” – Stephen King
The people and experiences that make up our lives are ever changing and often gone too quickly. Value every day, experience, and person that makes of the tapestry of your life.
People who appear motivated believe that they will succeed. People who appear to be unmotivated don’t. What we believe determines what we do and who we become. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin
Perspective is powerful. Perspective is a choice. “Some people see the glass half full. Others see it half empty. I see a glass that is twice as big as it needs to be.” – George Carlin
Conversations focused on proving a point rather than building connections, diminish our chances to find common ground. If we don’t value each other, is there really anything left worth arguing about?
Curiosity leads to questions. Questions lead to learning. Learning leads to understanding. Understanding builds connections. Connections build relationships. Relationships are what matter most. Relationships fail when we stop being curious. “When we aren’t curious in conversations we judge, tell, blame and even shame, often without even knowing it, which leads to conflict.”- Kirsten Siggins
The Beatles began to fall apart when the focus shifted from what the band needed to what the individual members wanted. The same thing happens everyday in organizations, families and relationships. Where we focus and the choices we make are determined by what we value.
Communication is more than words, texts and emails. People tend to believe what they see over what they hear or read. Our most powerful message is communicated by the way we live our lives.
People who disagree can easily fall into the trap of focusing only on defending their perspective resulting in a missed opportunity to understand the other person and why they believe what they believe. Understanding the problem is important. Understanding the people is essential.
Success is not measured by the number of likes we get on social media or how much money we have. Success is measured by the relationships we build and the choices we make.