“Do you want to fight or do you want to win?”
A wise man asked me that long ago.
I have asked myself that many times since and it changed how I approached conflict.
I have learned to do neither until you separate the facts from the feelings.
We can’t get what we want unless we know what it that is.
When emotions take control, rational thinking is the first casualty.
The victims are relationships, sometimes damaged beyond repair.
There are words that once said, cannot be taken back and they are always said when emotions are in control of behavior.
Relationships are altered and distances to vast to cross are created.
Stop the action
Think about what we want to do or say before we do or say it.
Take action only when we have weighed the rewards and consequences of our choices.
Remember relationships and people are more valuable than determining who is right or wrong.
It all comes down to how we define winning and the value we place on our relationships.
There are a few things that I would fight for.
More often, I look for ways for everybody to win.
Might take a little more work but working for the win is also much more rewarding.
“One of the biggest things that I have learned is that I don’t always have to be right.” – Jeffrey Swartz